I linked up with Kelly's Korner for her "Ministry Wives" blog. I thought it would be fun to connect with other minister's wives! It's a unique world that's for sure, and it's encouraging to be reminded you're not alone! My hubby is a pastor and we have been a part of two traditional churches before he (or as you wives know too well, "WE") planted a church two years ago in Denton, Texas. What a journey it has been! Definitely challenging but SO rewarding as well. God has taught us so much through planting and serving a church. It has truly been amazing. To say I always love being a pastor's wife would not quite be the truth, but for the most part it's wonderful. It's a full time, unpaid and often under appreciated job, but it's also wonderful at the same time. The people at our church, Venture Community, make it wonderful for me. Our church family there is such a blessing to me. They are Jesus to me in so many ways.
I get the phrase, "You don't seem like the typical pastor's wife!" all the time. This is funny to me. I didn't know we were all cookie cutters!;) I take that as a compliment though. Truth is, I'm just real. I don't know any other way to be. I'm a mess a lot of the time, exhausted from raising two sweet baby girls and loving my husband, serving our church in ways seen and unseen and trying my darndest to be like Jesus. I'm just like any other wife and momma, just that my husband leads a church and I support him in that! I don't really feel a lot of the "fish bowl" pressure, largely because my hubby does a great job of protecting me from the pressures of being a pastor's wife and also because our church family is so amazing. I'm so grateful for that! One of the most dreaded, but funny at the same time, things about being a pastor's wife is when you are talking to new people and then the question comes up, "So what does your husband do??" I often want to lie and say, "Oh, he's a business guy" or something along those lines.:) As soon as the word,"Pastor" comes out, the look on people's faces is classic, a nervous smile and a congratulatory type comment. Usually the conversation comes to end soon after. They are recalling everything they have said, hoping they didn't say a bad word or something they wouldn't say in front of a "Pastor's Wife" Ha! This seriously makes me laugh so hard. That's when I just want to explain that I am in fact "normal" and don't go around judging and condemning people. I would sure be in trouble if someone did that to me! It's a world only a pastor's wife could understand, but it's a world I'm sure thankful I'm a part of! Blessings to all the Pastor's wives out there, your work for the Lord is not in vain!
"The Pastor's wife is the only women I know who is expected to
work full time with out pay on her husband's job,
in a role no one has yet defined." -Ruthie White
"In the shadow of the home, stands a figure often obscure. Just behind
the pastor, is his wife. She is with him every minute, helping to make his work progress.
You can't discount her portion in the measure of success. Often behind the scene of action,
often never seen or heard, yet she stands forever ready to give a helpful word.
It's not in active service that her worth is really shown, but in bearing heavy
burdens that to others are unknown. With encouragement and vision,
she must urge God's servant on, when the shadows are the
darkest and his courage almost gone. With her home forever open and her work never quite done,
she is forever his lieutenant in the battles fought and won."